. . . She did not die, dear reader, she got married.
Today, 9 January, 2018, is the first day in Australia we could legally marry. So we did. At home in Currarong with a stunning celebrant (Meryl McGinn) and two witnesses.
Frances Maree Rand and I, Barbara Helen Farrelly, have been as a wife to each other, in everything but name. Today, I feel both grateful and blessed that our relationship is, finally, lawful. Frances was all about visibility when she founded LOTL (Lesbians on the Loose) magazine and today the State can finally “see” us.
On March 14 this year, we will have been together 25 years.
Thank you to our sprawling families, now legally merged, and to friends who have kept the long vigil and kept us afloat. I breathe for you.
A special thank you to fellow activists (living and dead) who make change possible and continue to fight for social justice and liberation. (“Stick it to the man” and “keep your rosaries off our ovaries”). And thank you to my palliative care doctors, (Dr Laura and Dr Jen specially), my specialist Dr Greg, nurses and medical support crew down the South Coast.
Most of all, thank you to my wife.
And thank you for my life.
Arohanui and Ma Te Wa – that’s all folks, really.